We have the tendency to feel the need to help solve and fix the problems of the people we love. And we hope other people can fix ours too. But we are looking in the wrong place.
Because only God can fix those hard-to-heal hurts. Whether He changes our circumstances or changes our hearts - He is the only One who can take on that responsibility.
Only He is capable of molding and shaping a heart - healing it, softening it, making it more understanding and forgiving and humble and gentle.
We can love and encourage and be understanding and sympathetic. We can offer our help and be generous and sensitive and even sacrifice ourselves. We can apologize and forgive and agree to let go of the past.
But in the end, each heart has to look up to Him to receive the true transformation that comes from trusting Him completely, believing in His love and affection; yielding heart and mind to His will and His ways.
Help us, Lord, each one.